A blind person did not choose to be blind, but can choose limitations blindness places on his life. That’s even more true of limitations caused by emotional distress. We can’t prevent the trauma that triggers it, but can choose limitations it imposes on our lives. Many people enjoy reliving their negative experience. To see their experience as somehow positive would seem would absurd to them.
There’s a saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”
If you’re not ready to see or accept that we don’t choose to be blind, crippled, or post-traumatic, but can choose limitations such